Zita Stanley

When do you get anxious about flying?
Does talk of booking a flight start to nauseate you or is it when you start to pack?
Everyone is different when it comes to how anxious they are and when these symptoms begin.
If you have never flown before then of course there is a natural apprehension about flying -it’s an unnatural thing to do.  So, your subconscious mind wants to keep you safe and secure but remember your subconscious has no logic, no understanding so no amount of making your fear or anxiety logical can help in the long-term, you must go to the subconscious and teach/re-programme it, so that the anxiety and nervousness with regard to flying fears can be alleviated.  What hypnosis does is help you to relax, so that you feel that you can change and feel different rather than letting a fear of flying control you.  When you think of flying, you probably feel the flutter in your tummy or perhaps your heart beats a little faster… setting in motion the chain of events and you didn’t even go near a plane!  With hypnosis we disrupt the neuro-physiological pattern so that you can think of flying, planes, booking a flight etc and you are calm rather the anxiety and nervousness which you have already “trained” yourself to feel.

Let hypnosis help you control and overcome your fear of flying so that you enjoy your holiday/business trip and may I say, enjoy rather than endure your flight.

Call me now to fly without fear - 086 1038892.

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Whatever change you want to make, you need some form of motivation or otherwise you would not change. Make change is never easy whether it is to stop smoking, lose weight, get focused on the job you want, motivation to set up your own business, gain confidence you will need some help. Hypnosis is such a focused tool at your disposal to give you laser focus on what you want. Hypnosis helps to concentrate your mind on that one change. Remember, you can only work on one change at a time (that’s why New Year Resolutions fail - we try too many changes and achieve nothing). Listening to a hypnotic CD/MP3 reminds your subconscious mind that you want to change. The theory is to make change permanent it takes 21 days for it to be fully absorbed by the subconscious mind.

If you are new to hypnosis and hypnotherapy, what has stopped you in the past from fulfilling your goals, was it the little voice in your head telling you that you “don’t deserve it”, “not good enough”, “no time”, “that’s not for you” - you get the drift. If you feel this is the obstacle because the voice gets so loud you must obey it then please consider hypnosis where we can access your subconscious and quieten the voice once and for all.

Do you really want to end your days regretting the things you didn’t do? You can be and/or change anything about yourself that you are not happy with - hypnosis helps you to feel confidence that you can achieve your goals. Sometimes it is easier to choose the safe option and continue to complain and feel sorry for yourself but if you want to change and get the feeling that you can change through hypnosis who knows what you can achieve.

Call me now to book an appointment on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Skype - email me if you would like to have a session using Skype - zita@zitastanley.com

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What plans do you have?  Do you imagine a life different to what you have now?  Do you follow through on  your plans?  Perhaps you never make plans, just drifting one day to the next, fed up that you don’t have all you want.

Planners:  When you make plans, it is important to write them.  Divide up all the areas of your life and make a list of what you would like to achieve.  Then go through the items on your list and write down what steps you need to take to get your goals - do you need advice, further education, a business plan, or just time.  Now time your goals for achievement and within that set a time table for each step.  Remember a goal should be just out of reach, not out of sight.

As you work through your goals, give yourself a treat with each step achieved - it’s an added incentive but don’t make it about food or alcohol.  Each step you take towards your goals will make you feel fantastic, the sense of empowerment is unbelieveable because you are making your goal in to reality.

Drifters:  Perhaps some of you don’t plan.  Things just happen and you go with the flow sometimes good and sometimes bad.  What makes you fearful of making plans?  Perhaps it’s a fear that you won’t be disappointed if you don’t achieve your goal.  If you are happy like this, good for you but if not, take some time to understand why you don’t set goals.

Hypnosis can help turn your hopes and dreams into reality by giving you focus and clarity of mind so that yes you do believe you can achieve your goals.

So go on, give me a call and lets set some goals.

Office:  Upper Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

Tel 086 1038892

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All focus (or so it seems) is on you - you feel your face going red, your heart beating as though it is about to jump out your chest (or your mouth), sweating palms, you begin to dissociate, your mouth becomes dry or stops working and you feel as though you are slurring your words.  Does this seem familiar?  You are not alone.  Every dealing with more than one person is an ordeal you anticipate.

What begins to happen is that you anticipate the above happening and you set the image in your mind of being uncomfortable and feeling very nervous and anxiety and hey presto, that is exactly what happens.  And so the vicious circle continues….

Your mind does not know the difference between what is real or what is imagined - you set the standard and it follows suit - after all, it is only doing what you expect.

What would life be like for you if you could reverse the symptoms and actually only feel normal anticipation (say for giving a presentation)? What would that mean to you? Is it something you have ever thought about? We will all say I “don’t want….” but the subconscious does not recognise the word “not” so in effect you are saying “I want to feel anxious” without realising it!

So, I want you to make a list to answer the above questions and each answer is to start with “I want to feel…I want to be….” with a positive statement. Hypnosis helps by accessing the subconscious and using relaxation and visualisation techniques to overcome each symptom and learn to re-wind it as it were. Sometimes we can be so caught up in the negative that we do not know how to be positive and therefore put up obstacles.

Hypnosis can help re-enforce the behavioural changes necessary to overcome anxiety whatever the type of anxiety you suffer from. No matter how logically you work out your anxiety it is not going to change unless you access your powerhouse of emotion – the subconscious mind. Therapy is required for moderate to severe cases to uncover the precipitating event and gain closure. For presentation confidence, suggestion therapy will usually be sufficient (i.e. just dealing with the symptoms). With hypnosis we access the subconscious mind and reprogramme the old way of behaving so that the new ways are acceptable. In this way, we create a positive scenario. This isn’t easy as the sufferer you are used to behaving a certain way. What will your life be like with your new found relaxed way of dealing with situations that used to previously caused you so much pain both mentally and physically? How will people react to you now? Creating change is never easy but it will be worth it – do you really want to live you life in fear/panic? Do you want this anxiety to make you socially isolated? I don’t think so. But there is no magic cure and it takes time and effort on your part. Are you ready to make the change from panic to relaxation?

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The feelings of panic are familiar to you. When do they start? When you book a flight, pack, get to the airport, board the plane? Everyone is different and the feelings of anxiety will occur at different stages but what is common is the out of control feelings, the nausea, the sweaty palms, the palpitations, the anxiety - all occur to varying degrees. Some of you, no doubt, will have used alcohol, drugs (prescription and/or recreational) to cure the problem but nothing helps. In fact, you may have to deal with the feelings of a hang-over, disorientation and general unwellness. What is happening is that you recognise there is a problem and now perhaps the things you used to self medicate begins earlier and earlies and so you are enjoying less and less of your holidays. Holidays can be stressful enough (delayed flights, perhaps tired children etc) without having the added anxiety of a fear of flying.

Hypnosis helps by showing you how to control the panic attack/anxiety/unease so that you “learn” to become more relaxed when flying. Loss of control is a common thread - if you are on a boat and it starts to sink, you can swim to safety (whether or not you can swim is irrelevant to your subconscious mind!) but what happens with flying? Part of the hypnotic process is to allay your fears and to relinquish the part of you that likes to be in control so that you learn to trust the engineers, pilots etc who work behind the scenes to ensure your safety. Pilots undergo rigourous checks every 6 months to ensure they ability to pilot a plane. There are aviation rules to ensure your safety.

While your subconscious mind accepts that there are rules for your safety, then we turn to your inner turmoil - reversing the feelings. You will experience the feelings of panic/anxiety/unease that you normall feel - this is necessary to prove to yourself that hey, I can manage and reverse these feelings. It is a process and you will find the each flight gets a little bit easier for you so that you can, dare I say it, look forward to flying!

Why suffer and ruin holidays or work travel for yourself? Hypnosis is a marvellous tool and can help you to overcome the feelings that you so that you regain control of you.

Your emotions are not who you are, they are a component that you control so take control of your flying anxiety (hypnosis makes it easier) and make flying a pleasure for you. As mentioned, you cannot do this for others you have to want to make the change.

Good luck and here’s to overcoming your fear of flying with hypnosis and relaxed flying. Isn’t that worth wanting?

Call me now on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street and Portlaoise, Co. Laois. Coming soon hypnotherapy via skype - so from the comfort of your own home you can overcome whatever issues that are upsetting your life.

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Hypnotherapy is about making change in your life.  Moving out of your comfort zone to achieve something better.  How do you want to look back on your life - see if full of missed chances because you were afraid?  What were you afraid of - fear of failure, fear of success, fear of things not being the way you’d thought they would so you just “stick” because at least you won’t be disappointed.  Well, that sucks!  Move out of your comfort zone, it’s exciting!  You will never change anything unless you move out of your comfort zone.  Not changing doesn’t make demands, it’s comfortable.  If you are reading this, you know you are not comfortable in that comfort zone any more and you expect something more.  That’s where hypnosis can help.  If you lack focus, you learn to concentrate your mind on your goal.  I read recently that Madonna is really focused and isn’t is obvious.  How could you have achieved longevity in showbusiness unless she was razor focused and look at her body - she is supposed to train for hours every day like an athlete.  So imagine if you really focus your mind on one change you would like to make, what difference would that make to you and your life.

To experience hypnosis and its wonderful effects call me on 086 1038892.

Baggot Street and coming soon therapy over the internet - you won’t even have to leave your house.  So no excuses.  To make the change make the call now 086 1038892

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At the basics of hypnosis and hypnotherapy is to take what works for you and make it better so that the positive outweighs the negative, your thinking process is engaged towards solutions rather than possible problems, you are practical with regard to worrying, you manage stress adequately, concentrate on a pale face so you stop blushing, you act confidence physically and the internal confidence builds inside you.  What happens, one day comes and you haven’t had to think about the steps necessary to stop blushing, stop smoking etc.  Your mind automaticallly (and that is your subconscious mind) goes to positive thoughts.  We all have something that works for us deep down inside.  We have forgotten it.  You have over the years trained your mind to automatically think the worst and this causes anxiety.  Why does it cause anxiety?  Because it is not really who you are.  We should always strive to be better, to push ourselves out of the comfort zone, to see opportunity.  Take what you have that works at any level and build on that so that it thrives with good thoughts, perhaps training or practicing whatever it takes to get it better.

For self improvement in any area of your life, make the call now 086 1038892.  Baggot Street Dublin 2.  You have the power within you, let me show you how to unlock the secret to your subconscious mind!

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Today I’m going to focus on the milder type blushing.  Blushing at work or avoiding situations where the focus will be on you at work rather the blushing associated with social anxiety.

This milder form of blushing responds very well to what is termed suggestion therapy whereby we focus on the symptoms and reverse them.  No therapy is involved.  In my practice I found that adding the dimension of boosting confidence can achieve very good results indeed.  You may be confident and lively with your family and friends but at work it is the opposite.  You hear your name called at work and you automatically assume you have done something wrong and then blushing begins as a physical reminder to everyone of how you are feeling.  Or perhaps you fine at work until you have to present, until you have to be under scrutiny.  What happens to you, do you avoid presentations altogether or spend all the time you have setting up the image of a big red face, getting tongue-tied, dry mouth, sweaty palms and whatever else you want to add.  Remember, as you set this scenario in your head, your subconscious is eager to please you and sets this very unwanted images in train so that you go red, have no train of thought etc.  So what to do, there are two big steps to take.

1.  Remember your subconscious mind does not recognise the word “not” or “no” so when you say to yourself “stop blushing”, your subconscious mind flicks through its internal dictionary, ignores “stop” and presents you with blushing - well after all you did ask for blushing”.  So we must change your thoughts to “my face is pale and cool” to counter the redness and heat.  So now you say “my face is pale and cool” and your subconscious mind flicks through its dictionary for what pale and cool mean and hey presto, your face is pale and cool.  Playing your hypnotic CD, which I make at your session specific to your needs, for 3 weeks helps to re-enforce these new suggestions.

2. Confidence:  Does a confident person blush?  No.  So now we must reduce the feelings of anxiety, you know that butterfly feeling in your tummy and send it to the excitement road so that you are animated and dare I say it, enjoying your performance.  Again, playing your CD helps to re-enforce the suggestions which are for your benefit and remind your subconscious of what confidence means to you.

Two to three sessions are all that is usually required and we go through visualization techniques and other things to help build your armory so that you go into battle fully prepared.

To stop blushing and boost confidence with hypnosis call me on 086 1038892.  Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Immediate relief of symptoms - doesn’t that sound good. That’s what hypnotherapy offers you - imagine slight nervousness which turns to excitement, your face pale and cool, your hands dry, your voice strong, you are standing tall with shoulders back and in a relaxed position, your heart beating normally, your stomach at ease. What would that mean to you? Would the new confident you do a different job, or enjoy life a little bit more? Sometimes sufferers get (understandably so) avoidant with their behaviour that they forget to think what life would be life with blushing was under control and the associated anxiety would subside and whatever knock-on effects usually occurred were gone because there was nothing to trigger them. What if you could look, dare I say, it forward to some social activity. Of course this is possible. You didn’t always blush or feel anxious. Children and animals do not blush. Children are born with a natural fearlessness that we learn to over-ride as we get older! So you didn’t always feel this blushing or anxiety. But now it has overwhelmed your life (for some) or become a feature to hold you back. Hypnosis and hypnotherapy can help you to overturn these symptoms and you learn immediate relief. Doesn’t that sound wonderful. However, hypnosis is not a cure for blushing. Hypnosis (a concentrated relaxation) makes you more aware of the “set up” in the process of blushing and anxiety so you step in earlier to stop a full blushing and anxiety attack. Hypnotherapy is a short concentrated solution focused therapy - with concentration and solution on being whatever you need - more confidence, higher self esteem, learning how to deal with authority or whatever your trigger happens to be.

Make the change and make the call now 086 1038892 and you can experience the benefits of hypnosis and hypnotherapy on your blushing and anxiety.

Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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Hypnotherapy is therapy carried out under hypnosis which essentially allows you to make change very quickly. The focus is the one change you wish to make in your life and a short, concise and focused therapy to help you build your self reliance. You gain the opportunity to harness the new and re-ignited skills within yourself in the future. It is about raising your self belief that you can be stop smoking, lose weight, get the great job you want, have a family, find a partner, overcome depression and anxiety, stop blushing or whatever change you wish to make.

You must want to make the change and believe that change for you is possible - you don’t have to believe in the process but be open minded. Expect positive change and look forward to positive change! Take a moment right now to write down goals for each area of your life - let’s face it, if you were content as you are now you wouldn’t be reading this. Write down the categories - lifestyle, health, family, relationships, financial, educational - whatever areas are in your life. Then list the goals or aspirations you have in each category. Now the most important is to timeline them so you see at a glance what the most pressing issue is for you. Hypnosis is great to help clarify our thoughts and organize the areas in your life.

Then set out the tasks you need to take to make each goal a reality - do you have to connect with someone, do you have do a course, do you have _________? Again set out a to-do list with these. Remember the day is not over until you can tick off everything on your life. Life being life, no doubt you may be thrown a curve ball but re-arrange the timeline - it’s not set in stone but don’t let things slide because of laziness.

For more help on focusing your mind or changing an unwanted habit call 086 1038892.

Office in Baggot Street, Dublin 2.

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